Why the Hustle Movement isn’t for Everyone

Over the years, social media has given way to many fads and online #trends. But one movement that has particularly struck my interest over the past few months is that of the “hustle movement (or culture if you will)”. The hustle movement is basically the mindset that every waking moment of your time needs to be dedicated to your work or your financial goals… In other words a workaholic x100.

When I was first presented with the idea I thought it was actually quite motivating. Shouldn’t we all work harder to achieve our goals? It wasn’t until later that I realised that this whole notion actually had the potential to be quite toxic. Maybe it was because I delved deeper into the idea, or maybe it was because the concept had started to take a different turn, I’m not sure. But it wasn’t before long that I started noticing some of the hashtags that were associated with #hustle and #grind. These included #outwork, #endlesspositivity and #whoneedssleep….Ummmm I DO!!!!

New York Times author Erin Griffith sums it up perfectly: “It is obsessed with striving, relentlessly positive, devoid of humor, and — once you notice it — impossible to escape.”

This was the moment where I noticed that this whole hustle culture thing had shifted drastically from applauding hard work to encouraging both food and sleep deprivation. Oh and it also required you to stay positive throughout the whole expedition regardless of what was going on in the outside world. My appreciation for the new profound hustle culture died within seconds.

Allow me to point out what is wrong here. I think any normal human who undertook this new pop-culture concept (or fad) would crash hard and fast both physically and mentally. There are some of us (particularly those such as myself who suffer from very debilitating diseases) who need rest in order to not only thrive but also survive (rhyme not intended). I need my food and the occasional nap to keep my sanity as well as be in a better mood all round which in turn benefits those around me. Believe it or not, I also need to bawl my eyes out occasionally due to the simple fact that life isn’t always fair and easy.   When I was first introduced to the whole idea of “hustle and grind” idea, I immediately felt like I wasn’t doing enough. That I wasn’t working long enough or hard enough. It made me feel inferior and that I wasn’t reaching my full potential. It took quite some time for me to realise that the pace I’m living at is perfectly fine and I actually am doing all the right things.

I am of the opinion to work smarter not harder. Time management is key. When you actually need to work within your hours then yeah do your hustle thing, but don’t bring it home with you, don’t deprive yourself of happiness and DO NOT deprive yourself of your mental and physical health. There is so much more to life than your financial status and if you are “hustling day and night”, then by default, you are doing something wrong.

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We’re Only Human

WARNING: Potentially Unpopular Opinion

Humans are predisposed to reflexively put the blame and hate on someone else. Whenever something goes wrong or not quite as planned, the last thing a person wants to do is admit that they are the ones at fault (whether this may be the case or not). Furthermore, people have a tendency to either forget or ignore the affects that blame and hate can have on a person.

Allow me to paint a picture the current president of the United States is Donald Trump. Before I get into this I want to highlight that I am not a fan of the Trump administration and my knowledge on American politics is very slim. Now, I am aware of some of the things Trump has said and done, but I am also aware of the way in which some people have reacted to it. While people should certainly defend their rights in regards to some of the things he has said, I have never and will never condone hatred towards a persons personal life and their character. A lot of people seem to dislike this man purely because of his name. In addition to this, his sons, his daughter and his wife have definitely copped their fair share of heat e.g. the most recent attack on the First Lady for her choice of Christmas tree colour… (seriously!?!?! In the words of Peter Giffin “Who the hell cares?” It comes down to personal taste and while it’s ok for you to not be a fan of it, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t speak). Trump has also been attacked for his appearance, and quite simply speaking.

I feel like most politicians tend to cop it due to the decision that them and THEIR POLITICAL PARTY MAKE (emphasis on the fact that most jobs and decisions about anything are not made by one individual person). But most people forget that these people are still just that… people. Donald Trump, Theresa May, Scott Morrison, they are all just one person. One human just like you and me, and like many of us are fathers/mothers, brothers/sisters and sons/daughters. They hurt just like we do and are passionate just as we are and simply because they are in a position of power, people see them as someone to blame or direct their unhappiness about something. They are just trying to do their job as best as they seem fit just as we do when we go to work.

This concept of blame can extend from global politics into everyday life. From authoritative figures (such as doctors, teachers, even parents), to people in our day-to-day lives we are all only human and we are all just trying our best to get through and I assure you kindness goes a lot further than hate and bitterness.

 

Why the World Isn’t Actually as Bad as it Seems

Have you ever heard the son “I Wish I Was a Punk Rocker”?

Or the line where the singer says, “I was born too late. In a world that doesn’t care”?

It gives the era that we live in some pretty bad connotations. Either on the news or social media or in civil conversation, the phrase “I’m sad for the world we live in” or “I’ve lost my faith in humanity”, or “things are only going to get worse”. Now I understand how this article may make me sound. But I am NOT blind. I am aware that yes there is war, and yes there is poverty and corruption. For a long time, I too was apart of this group of people (majority of the world) who believed that mankind would inevitably be its own demise. In some ways I still agree with this notion.

But once I finished school and was forced to start formulating my own opinions about this wide world I live in, I learnt that although we have our problems (which planet doesn’t) it isn’t actually as bad as we always make it out to be. I’ve learnt that crucial global issues such as war, poverty and environmental issues are and always will be prevalent in any modern society; it always has been and it always will be. But does that make it ok? Of course not, it should always be on our list of things that we MUST resolve and I am in no way suggesting we should condone these issues. With all that being said, here are a few reasons why I believe the world isn’t actually entering its first apocalyptic state.

War and Conflict

Did you know that we are currently living in the most peaceful time in human history? Allow me to provide some perspective. By the end of 1940, the world had endured two World Wars, the greatest economic depression in living memory and was about to enter a nuclear race and the Cold War. Political conflict was rife and most of Europe was left in tatters. Fair to say it wasn’t pretty, fast forward to now, and research shows that there is a  startling decrease in worldwide violence, and the lowest mortality rate due to homicide on record. Following on from this, nations of the present have placed both global and local peace at the top of their priority list. This year alone we have seen North and South Korea try to amend their past issues and there are currently less wars and less people dying in wars than ever before.

 

Poverty

Something that is often a result of war and can absolutely ravish a community is poverty.  It’s always been an issue since humans first dealing in trade, and has been something that we have been striving to resolve. Now before I start on this section I just want to stress that I am aware that yes this is still a serious issue. However, since 2016, the proportion of the world’s population living in extreme poverty has actually fallen below 10%. For the first time ever, global economists have predicted that it IS actually possible to have poverty eradicated by 2030. For example, approximately 10 years ago, those living in poverty in China used to live on less than $1 a day. In 2012 however, this statistic has increased to $1.90 and the amount of people living like this in China has fallen by 88%. Now I’m aware that this still isn’t great but I would say that it is still a step in the right direction, and this is probably likely to reach a global level.

 

Innovation

Cast your mind back to the late 1400’s… Did you know that it took Christopher Columbus just under 2 months to cross the Atlantic sea? I don’t know about you but I’m sure if I spent more than a few days at sea I would lose my mind. Nowadays if we have loved ones living on the other side of the world, we can reach them within the space of a day meanwhile still keeping in contact with them 24/7 if need be. Following on from previous generations we are now able to cure diseases we never thought possible (polio, measles, whooping cough), and we can now send man to the moon and beyond. 100 years ago life expectancy was just 45 years old, now we see people living beyond 100 years! With modern medicine taking us further than we could imagine it has also given us the ability to create more than we could imagine!

Equality & Discrimination

Ok, so before I start, let me stress that I am fully aware this is still a very serious issue, but I do think that we have made some headway. Comparing now to previous times, we can successfully say that “gone!” are the days of segregation and since Martin Luther King jnr’s “I Have a Dream Speech”, people of colour, religion and sex have been widely accepted in both local and global communities. Now, women can climb the corporate ladder as high as they please and can also have a say in who will run their country; same-sex marriage is now legal in most countries and if you wish to change your gender, religion or even something simple as your political views you may do so without fear of being judged wrongly. Now, may I also say the above statements are addressing the MAJORITY. I cannot stress enough how much of a big deal this issue is as it is still so prevalent in today’s of society, but that’s not to say that progress hasn’t been made in this area.

 

More often than not, the media often portray to us a world of negativity and corruption. But does that mean we necessarily have to listen to it? So many of us are powered and influenced by love and compassion. It’s actually not in our nature, to discriminate, or to engage in war. Planet earth still has a long way to go but we must still be thankful for what we do have and proud of what we already have achieved.

23 Lessons from 23 Years

23 Years Old! Another year to jot down in the history books and another year where I proudly say I still stand tall. So there have been 23 years worth of tears, laughs, collapses of exhaustion and moments or pure elation. Here are 23 little lessons I’ve learnt from 23 years of life. Lessons that I have learnt from my parents, friends, family, teachers and people from all walks of life.

  1. It’s all about the little things/ moments.
  2. You actually don’t need to be like everyone else and that’s ok.
  3. You have to try and live in the moment.
  4. It’s amazing the difference a hug can make.
  5. Social media isn’t actually the real world.
  6. Try not to overthink it.
  7. You actually don’t always need to forgive and forget someone.
  8. You’re not the only one fighting this battle.
  9. HOWEVER, you are still within your rights to feel sorry for yourself sometimes.
  10. Laughter will forever be your salvation in all of this.
  11. This too shall pass…? Not necessarily.
  12. Kindness will always take you further and it certainly isn’t as draining.
  13. I promise that your courage will shine through when you need it.
  14. Forget all the petty things.
  15. Hard work might not always pay off, but at least you’re not left wondering.
  16. Never say something definitively without having all the required knowledge. Things are not always as they seem.
  17. See, do, eat, and live everything you can get your hands on!
  18. You are not the only one who believes that they are right, everyone has a VALID opinion whether you like it or not.
  19. You don’t have to do everything at once.
  20. Are you stressed? Can you control it? Regardless of the answer, why stress then?
  21. Nothing beats the food that you’re craving.
  22. You’re time on this earth is determined by how you spend it and how you remember it.
  23. Life’s a lot easier when you can have a laugh at yourself.

Here’s to the Chase

Triumph, doesn’t just happen. It comes about because we as humans choose to pursue it. Regardless of risk or rules, or boundaries. Because we choose to listen to the voice inside of us that says: Chase it.

Without the chase, everything man has ever done would not have been done as well as good at all.

So when the call comes to chase something, listen to it. Ignore all the comfort zones, it never climbed a mountain, it never created a damn thing.

Chase Boldly!

And when you do… raise a glass to yourself. Because you sir or madam are alive.

J. Walter Thompson

I am Woman…what?

According to the Oxford Dictionary feminism is defined as “The advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of the equality of the sexes”. During my high school years, us “girls” were taught to become women and that we should respect others, but stand up for any injustice or discrimination we see against women’s rights. We would stand tall and proud on international women’s day, and hear the achievements and triumphs made by our elder female role models.

I like to think that I am a feminist. Along with my family and friends, I have always assumed that yes, of course I’m a feminist. I’m a strong woman who believes in having equal rights. Emphasis on the word EQUAL! But as certain issues arise in the social, economical and political world I’ve began to question whether or not I am a true “feminist”. The definition itself and the way people talk about feminism seems to have changed. The Times have described modern feminism as being “hot, rude and self-confident” while others like The Huffington Post say that it is still necessary. So here are the reasons I’m in two minds about who I am and what I want to represent when it comes to this no longer taboo topic:

The deterring side of things:

No doubt there is a new wave of feminism. But is it a good and positive wave? Since it’s birth, the supporting of women’s rights have given way to many reforms. But has that made us greedy? I have both witnessed and read about women using the idea of feminism to practically get away with murder. Whether they merely accuse others of being sexist simply make a point and prove themselves right with the most loathsome reasoning being “toxic white masculinity”. Or (in more extreme cases,) using feministic issues such as physical and verbal abuse in order to get what they want. Furthermore, modern/radical (?) feminism seems to sometimes degrade human achievement. In 2015, a scientist named Matt Taylor helped successfully guide a spacecraft on a comet, which is perceived to some as one of his greatest achievements. But instead of being commemorated for his success, he was instead heavily criticized for wearing a supposedly sexist shirt during his interview (seriously?! It was in reference to a video game). It is examples like these that make me question that feminism is no longer about equal rights, but instead simply degrading and overpowering others.

The attractive side of things:

As much as the radicals get under my skin, I believe that feminism is still needed. Even in my own family, it has been suggested more than once that I marry a man with wealth, in order to take the financial burden off my shoulders. I have been asked that at the tender age of 22, why I’m not draped over a mans shoulders yet. I, along with most of the female population cannot be outside and alone when the sun sets without feeling an element of fear and I think that no one should have to feel like that. Many of us are still subjects of being grabbed or catcalled at a bar or club (or even just down the street!) no matter how we’re dressed because we are “asking for it”. In many places in the Middle East, women are still subordinate to males, and there is still a 23% pay gap in males and females. Only in the last Century were we allowed to have a say in who leads our country, so there is no doubt that we still have a long way to go.

In the end, all I am looking for is equality. I do not want to overpower men, nor do I want their rights tarnished either. But I do want to be paid the same amount, for the same position that my male co-workers are in. I want to walk down the streets at night free of fear and to not being told I was “not being smart”, and I don’t want to have my personality and intelligence based on my appearance. I along with the rest of us have rights that are still being repressed and that is something we MUST stand up for. But we should not use this to repress the right of others. I am a feminist because I am an equalist.